Self-care in motherhood, and why it’s important…
Let’s talk self-care for a quick minute. As mothers we are often running from one place to the next, or from doing one thing to the next. We consider ourselves multi-taskers,
overachievers, and quite literally disasters hanging on by a single thread at the end of each day.
We seem to push ourselves to the brink, while still giving it our all. Some days nearly breaking down multiple times while grappling ourselves back up from the puddle on the floor that we’ve become, only to continue to keep pressing on. Why do we do this to ourselves? Why do we feel less than deserving of self-care? Why do we not stop and listen to our bodies when they are screaming at us from the inside.
Motherhood is quite essentially the toughest, most demanding, and by far emotionally pressing experience we will ever be faced with. Raising kids doesn’t seem all that hard when you’re in what I like to call the “honeymoon” phase of it all. Most of us moms started out with the dream of having a baby. They are cute, so tiny, needing and dependent upon us, and fill our hearts with so much love.
While these things are all very true, what we fail to realize in the moment of our baby dreams, is the bigger picture on what is going to come AFTER the baby stage is over. No one prepares you for life beyond a baby, let’s just be honest here for a minute. There’s a million books out there on what to expect, when expecting (quite literally).
But, where are the books for when shit gets hard? Or, how about when moms are suddenly faced with new stresses, worries, and illnesses, that get thrown under the rug as if they are no big deal? Only to leave us feeling all alone, like no other mother could possibly be feeling the way I feel right now. “If I told my friend what I am going through right now, she’d probably think I am crazy! Oh, what about the judgement? Someone will surly think I don’t want to be a mom, and that I should just have never had kids in the first place.”
These are all very REAL scenarios that we are faced with every single day as mothers, throughout our motherhood journeys.
I have been at this motherhood and parenting gig for 11 years now. I am by
NO means an expert in any kind of way. In fact, I feel so far from it. However, as with many seasoned moms, I do feel that I have learned a great deal of things that I can open up about and pass onto other mama’s, who might just be getting into the thick of motherhood themselves. Or at least help to prepare those who haven’t quite yet reached those woes.
I want you to know that it is OKAY to have bad mom days. To feel overwhelmed, touched out, and irritable. It is OKAY to feel these emotions. What is
Motherhood is all about balance as many of us quickly find that out. It is the most crucial part of taking care of ourselves, while allowing ourselves to re-fill and refuel our inner tanks. When you start to feel those heavy weights piling up on your shoulders, make sure you stop to listen and tend to them. We owe and deserve it to ourselves, to be the best mom’s, wives, friends, and US’s we can be. Find a way to tap out, and fill your cup back up again, mama’s.
Whether that be throwing on some headphones and blasting your favorite music to drown out the noises, or kicking those feet up during nap time and reading a favorite book, to catching up on a TV show, or just painting your nails. Whatever makes you feel like YOU again, do it! Don’t fill your head with excuses on why you shouldn’t or can’t. That’s crazy nonsense trying to tell you that you are not worthy of self-care when you most certainly are. We mama’s need to take care of one another, and looking out for our fellow friends is just the beginning. I hope you find one way to fuel your tank this week, while not allowing an ounce of guilt to seep in over it.